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A Journal for the Submissive Male


A growing list of resources and helpful information for submissive men.

Tools & Info:

The Submissive’s Holiday Gift Giving Guide – Sure it’s Christmas themed, but spoiling your Mistress is a year-round proposition. Follow these tips to find the perfect present for your Mistress. And don’t skimp on the gift wrap either!

The Submissive Man’s Guide to Toys: Our checklist of sorts of the must have items that every guy needs to have in his toy own bag.

The BDSM Checklist – Our BDSM Checklist is designed to cover the basics only, to give a prospective play partner a quick over-view of your interests, fetishes and hard limits.

The BDSM Quiz – Our own take on the helpful listing of just how submissive, dominant, exhibitionistic and everything else you are. Ready for posting on FetLife. — Coming soon, we promise!


The People of Kink – A Podcast Interviewing Real People about Real Kink.

Don’t Panic Podcast – Join swinger Magenta and inquisitive Shaina podcasting from bed on sex, love, and geekery.

The Fearless Submissive – A bi-weekly podcast on submission/ slavery with julie_R.

Taboo Radio – Australian based radio discussion all about Taboo sex in our society. Broadcast live, but with podcasts available.

Recommended Reading:

The New Bottoming Book by Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton

Domination and Submission: The BDSM Relationship Handbook by Michael Makai

SM 101: A Realistic Introduction by Jay Wiseman

Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance and Submission by William Brame, Gloria Brame and Jon Jacobs

The Loving Dominant by John Warren and Libby Warren

The Control Book by Peter Masters


FetLife.com – The “facebook of kink” is a great place to connect with kinky people and to find local groups.

UnderHerHeel.com – The best Mistress Directory and Professional Dominatrix Directory online.

TheBlackBootConcern.com – Our mothership, which provides web design, graphic design & online services for adult and kinky clients.

TheBlackDogKC.com – A private BDSM dungeon and club in downtown Kansas City, Missouri, which also happens to be our home base.


KAP Directory: Need a therapist, a doctor, a lawyer? The Kink Aware Professionals Directory is the place to look.